Diversity of carers
Adoption and fostering features about different types of adoptive and foster families
“Time and energy to give another child a chance”
Margaret, a housewife, and her husband Robert, a self-employed builder, were 47 and 52 when their adoptive son, George, aged three, joined their family. They already had five, mostly grown up, birth children, but realised they had space in their hearts and lives for another child. Margaret talks to Emily Pearce about their adoption journey.
“Don’t wait to do it!”
Janusz and Aleksander, a same-sex male couple, found their sons, Alfie and Bradley, in Be My Parent. They tell us their adoption story.
"Are you my new dads?" Scott, 35, and his partner Tris, 41, adopted their sons Frasier and Brandon, then aged eight and seven, back in 2007 after seeing their profile in Be My Parent. Scott tells the story of their journey to becoming adopters, from believing that as a same-sex couple they would always be childless, to being welcomed as adopters, going through the process, and becoming proud dads.
Just one enquiry Valerie, 48, was a single mum to Lilly, 17, and an adoption and fostering social worker herself, when she looked through Be My Parent at work and saw Noah’s profile. She had always thought she might like to adopt, but the time had never felt right. She took the paper home and, with encouragement from her daughter, she enquired about him. Although she had been turned down by other agencies, Noah’s agency agreed to assess her, and 14 months later he moved in. She speaks to Emily Pearce about her and Noah’s story.
Adoption is a wonderful thing There are many children of all ages and backgrounds in the UK care system awaiting adoptive families. Emily Pearce speaks to single adopter Karen about her adoption journey and her impassioned wish for more families to come forward to adopt.
We've learned a lot about ourselves Every family who wants to adopt has to find an adoption agency to assess and approve them. David and Ricardo adopted Maria and Matthew seven years ago, but still clearly recall those early days.
We couldn't do it without them
Kerrigan and Jason are a same-sex couple in their forties who hope to adopt. They gave up their metropolitan lives three years ago for the ‘good life’ in the middle of nowhere, far from family and friends – and have been busy building a support network ever since.
“They’ve adopted him as well!”
Penny was a single carer who had just been assessed to adopt. Her family and friends made up a support network that didn’t have a clue about adoption! So why does Penny now say that she couldn’t have done it without them?
A support group for gay and lesbian adopters
New Family Social is a charity working for lesbian and gay adopters and their children throughout the UK. Founder Andrew Leary-May explains the importance of the group’s network of support and social activity.
The pink guide to adoption for lesbians and gay men by Nicola Hill Published this month by BAAF, this book charts the adoption process and contains personal accounts of gay and lesbian adopters. Read extracts from those here…
A positive choice
Julie and her same-sex partner adopted Liam three years ago. She tells their story…
Resilience and self-confidence...
As an assessing and supervising social worker in the Brighton & Hove adoption team, Carol has placed three children with gay or lesbian adopters over the last four years, and is about to take another couple to panel. She talks to Isabelle Rameau about her experience…
“Many lesbians saved my life!” Before I met Mum and Sue, Social Services hadn’t talked to me about going to be adopted by lesbians (I was eight years old then). But I had already told them I didn’t want a dad...
Come on Social Services...
It’s time to let go of your prejudices and recognise that gay adopters have a lot to offer…
Families come in all shapes and sizes
In the last few decades, the family, as we know it, has changed beyond recognition from the traditional two-parent heterosexual family that was once commonly regarded as the norm.
Parenthood is for life!
We were in our forties and had been married for 15 years with three birth children when we decided to adopt. To our friends it seemed an odd decision, when most were thinking about their children leaving the nest...
Commitment and a dose of patience
When Maria and Rob dreamt about the fun they would have together as a family – the birthday parties, the day trips, and much else – they didn’t then envisage that the family they would create would be through adoption.
It’s not the family you’re born into, it’s the family you make
Lesbians and gay men can offer a much-needed family for a child, just like any other family. Still, prejudice can often confront them, making it difficult to consider adoption or fostering. Sasha and Jo share their story...
First rate or second best?
Alissa was in her early thirties when she decided to adopt as a single parent. The process was a bit nerve-wracking, but certainly worth it. Today, Alissa is the proud parent of two girls, Shana and Kelisha.
They will always be in our lives
It’s a miracle that families are put together this way and that they can work!” says Emma, who, with her husband, adopted two children last year.
My dads are the coolest people ever!
Hi, my name is Sam and I’m ten. I live with my two dads.
Being a man, being a father
A BAAF trainer and social worker, Pete Wrighton runs training days and a support group for male carers, and is himself a single father of two birth children. He talks about the role of men in adoption and permanent fostering.
Knowing where you come from
Nita, who has adopted three girls with her partner, talks about the importance of birth families and support.
Single carers have so much to offer!
Shabana, a single Asian adoptive mother of two girls, talks about caring for her daughters and the family’s decision to adopt again.
What makes a dad?
When Paul May was going through the adoption process, he found little to read on being an adoptive father so he set out to fill the gap. His book, Approaching fatherhood, is published by BAAF.
Last updated: 28 October 13