My dads are the coolest people ever!!!
Hi, my name is Sam and I’m ten. I live with my two dads. They’re adopting me. I came from an awful situation living in a children’s home and many foster homes since I was quite young. So as you can see I’ve had a hard life. I came to them with heaps of muddles and sadness.
My dads have helped me with everything – they listen and try to understand. They’ve taught me so much – especially to think for myself and solve my own problems.
To me a dad is someone I want to grow up to be like when I’m an adult – and I’m lucky to have two. When I have my own children (if I choose to have any) I want my dads to help me teach them the stuff they’ve taught me: to be good people, to be caring, to look after the world. And how to enjoy life!
Do you know why it’s cool to have two dads? Because when one is doing the work around the house the other one has some time to play. At other times they change around. Sometimes, we do jobs together, like cooking or shopping.
Having dads means you can do more things. I love spending time together with my dads, helping them make things or playing games. They teach me how to do great stuff. From gardening or repairing things around the house, to knitting or art, or just how to relax. I love listening to the stories they tell me about their lives.
My dads also protect me – make me feel safe. They always watch out for me. My dads have made my life so worthwhile because of all the things they do to support me – from helping with homework to taking me to football. That’s what good dads do – even though they are not really interested in football for themselves, they take a keen interest because it’s a part of my life.
My dads have shown me that I have other abilities too other than just football. Now I do drama, dance and play the keyboard. I can even cook a three-course meal!
They always have high expectations of me and want me to do well in my life. They’ve shown me how to dig deep into myself and reach for the best parts. Parts sometimes buried deeply under a lot of sadness. They’ve taught me how to aim high and achieve my goals.
We love each other heaps and have a lot of fun together as a family. I love my dads more than the stars in the sky and the grains of sand on the Earth.
Remember there are lots of different dads in the world. They all have different abilities and interests. All dads need to share these with their children. Good dads will make the time.
Dads-to-be should start thinking about what they are really good at – the piece of them they want to share. They will all have something important to offer children in Be My Parent. I know, I’ve been there. But now I’m here, in a family to have a really cool life.
Originally published in the Be My Parent newspaper in May 2005.
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Last updated: 05 December 07
